Female, 47 years old, Mother & Housewife
I have a teen who seems very independent and does well in school. On few occasions she mentioned to me she feels lonely but does not know why. I have initially thought she is just having some mood swings, as I notice she is well and jolly on some other days. However things started to get concerning to me and my husband when we noticed she is too quiet at home, and started to distance herself from us. There were some instances she experienced breakdowns and cried a lot, feeling exhausted, restless and helpless. We tried many ways to help her and sought some help from our trusted churchmates too. Unfortunately, things got worse instead of getting better. It started to take a toll on me too as I began to doubt myself if I am a good mother, and started to blame myself for everything that is happening to us. Then I realized I need to find someone who has expertise in dealing with this type of situations, someone who has the right knowledge and proper approach to help people having the same problem as ours. It was through God’s guidance that I was able to search Coach Beth during one of my sleepless nights. Deep in my heart I know God is helping us to get to the right person to help us.
We met up with Coach Beth and she provided us a candid assessment on what’s going on with our child. She provided my daughter some quick tools to help manage some ‘low moments’ whenever it occurs. My daughter started the therapy with her on a weekly basis, and we saw noticeable improvements as weeks went by. She started to be jolly more consistently, talked/shared with us more than before, and although there were still some “sad moments” it was not as bad as before and it was very seldom. We noticed our teen started to learn to love herself more and learned to select friends carefully.
Coach Beth made us realize how important the couple’s relationship is to the mental well-being of their child, things which we overlooked and underestimated in the past. She has helped not just our daughter but also us, as parents. As a mother and a wife, Coach Beth had helped brought my focus back on track and to be an emotionally stronger woman for my family. I could never forget that one-on-one session with her which had been my turning point. With that, I will be forever grateful and I really pray that God leads more families, who needs help, to her.
Esther, 44 years old, Mother & Businesswoman
I brought my daughter, Eli to Coach Beth when she was 11 years old because I was desperately trying to understand her behavior. As she grew older, her self-esteem diminished little by little. She was always scared to be left alone; always mad at any random words I say to her or random gestures I do for her. She thinks everything is her fault. She stopped participating in school activities. Sometimes she will be so angry even with petty things and she seemed to be possessed already by some evil spirit. She couldn’t strop crying until 2 am, reminiscing scenarios when she was a little girl like when she was locked in the room by the maid; or some betrayal/ indifference from her classmates. This has been regularly happening like once or twice a week and the tension was so intense in the house. I was already getting very angry at her because of her behavior and even blaming her because she was not listening to me. But she became worse. She asked me to transfer her to another school, then went back again after one month. After 2 months, she didn’t want to go to school anymore saying she is scared and that no one will believe her. Then she was crying saying ” I want to be free Mom “. I asked ” free from what?” I was hugging her trying to understand her. She said she doesn’t know what’s happening to her. The principal advised us to seek a psychologist because she was seen to be very anxious. She was also being counseled regularly in school during those times.
The therapy with Coach Beth has helped her so much and us too, as a family. We understand now where the behavior is coming from. When we understood the root cause, we stopped being angry at her. Instead we hug her and acknowledge the brokenness inside her. She too has learned to understand why sometimes she is triggered. She has learned not to be alarmed or scared by what she feels and how she behaves during the times she “struggles” because now she understands where it’s coming from. Our chaos in the house significantly lessened because we know better how to handle her during times when she gets triggered.
As for myself, having been raised in a loving family, I never imagined this bizarre thing happening to my daughter and to our family. The struggle is real, especially for one who is experiencing these psychological problems. We also learned that emotional neglect may cause so much trauma to children, without us parents noticing the symptoms until they become older. Now we are so happy with Eli. She is blooming now. Her self-confidence is coming back little by little. She participates again in school activities and she has become calmer and us, too. Eli is gaining many friends and she is able to express herself freely. Gradually, she is becoming the person God created her to be. Thanks so much to Coach Beth. We will continue the therapy sessions with Coach Beth to continuously guide Eli and us her family, especially now that Eli is in her teenage years.
Male, 35, Senior Manager
As a young member of middle management it was a struggle for me to differentiate what I feel and what I should do as a leader. I am known to be dominant, direct and some of my colleagues named me after “Anger”, of the movie Inside out. I am also easily frustrated when things do not go as I expected or the way I like.
Sometime July last year, my boss noticed that I became silent on meetings, if I will participate I will release all my frustrations and this triggers a very bad atmosphere during meetings. I considered this to be the lowest and worst part of my career. My boss talked to me and offered me a coaching program, that’s when I met Coach Beth. Our first conversation was through phone and that time I already felt that I could talk to her and tell her anything.
Most of our early sessions were focused on determining where my frustrations are coming from, including how I was raised in the family. This is where I realized that most of my feelings came from specific events that happened in my career or personal life. We often discussed how I can control these feelings. This is where she introduced me to the practice of mindfulness. I started to do meditation or mindfulness until it became a routine to me.
The mindfulness exercise greatly helped me recognize my feelings and think on what I should do. This also taught me that I can only address feelings or issues that I can control. I slowly learned how to spend my energy to a more useful output instead on negative feelings or behavior.
As I learned to recognize my feelings, I was able to replicate the coaching method of Coach Beth to my subordinates. This helped me understand more myself and my team, and the weaknesses and strengths of each individual member of my team.
After nine (9) sessions with her, and a new assignment after my 8th session, I can say that I was transformed personally and professionally, based on the recent 360 feedback from my team. There is still room for improvement but more positive feedback was given. I am much more engaged and happy. I still replicate what I learned from Coach Beth to my team today and I find it interesting since I am also helping people, in terms of understanding themselves.
Recalling my sessions with her, I actually realized that all actions are basically coming from me, Coach Beth is guiding me through her questions to resolve specific issues or feelings. She let me tell my stories and from there she picks up the “negative” feelings that affect me.
Generally, I am very grateful that I was given a chance to undergo sessions with Coach Beth, I cannot imagine myself now, if there was no intervention that happened a year back.
Athena, Female, 15 years old, student
If there is one word to describe all my sessions with Coach Beth it would be awakening. It was my first time to have a third perspective view and it really went well. She gave me tips on how to further enhance how I deal with my emotions and how to face them head on. Since I am into literature, she told me to release my emotional stress by writing. Everything that she told me to do helped me become a better version of myself. She was a very good listener and she sure can give some comments and explanations about your problem as if she was there during those times. Every session, I was always excited to tell my story through Sandplay. It made me picture myself in every step of the way through every character or icon I put in the sand.
I have observed that I became more mature when I handle my problems; thanks to all the advices she gave me. Ever since, I started sessions with her, more doors and opportunities opened for me. It made me realize my worth and the people who are still there for me rather than those whom I lost. Basically, it taught me how to learn to love and forgive myself because in the end, “Awakening doesn’t come to you, you find it in you”- Anonymous.
Diana, Female, 55 years old, Mother
I decided to let my 16 year old daughter try the sand therapy with Coach Beth. My daughter was having anxiety attacks and making self harming actions for months, which made us so worried she will lose it in the end, if remained untreated. She was with 2 other therapists before but she won’t come back after 5-10 sessions as she feels it is not helping her situation.
With Coach Beth, My daughter finds her therapy sessions very helpful and relaxing. She is gaining back her confidence now and no more self harming episodes for the past 8 months. She can handle stressful situations positively now and is more active in school organizations.
Thank you Coach Beth for being patient with my daughter. I found the perfect partner for my daughter’s journey to complete self healing.
Teddy, Male, 18 years old, Second Year College Student
I first sought help from Coach Beth when I knew my world was crumbling down into pieces, like granules of salt. During those dark times, I felt that it’s finished, it’s a done deal. Nobody likes me, everyone hates me. There is no way out except to take my own life, but it’s a good thing I did not do that because Coach Beth rescued me from committing the biggest stupidity in my whole life. When everything crumbled and when everyone turned their backs on me, she was the only person who listened to me, cared to understand each story I share with her, even though some are already redundant and sometimes petty. With Coach Beth, it’s just like talking to your long lost pal. No intimidation whatsoever. Her sessions were really life-changing. It is like a 360-degree reformation program. Coach Beth always reminds me that life here on earth is not like a garden full of fresh flowers, thus, I must always fight and refuse to be a slave of other’s perceptions. I must wake up to the reality that life out there is not always fair, most of the time, life would unwittingly kick you in the ass so hard, so you must be aware all the time. We worked on regaining my confidence once again and now I am not afraid to take a stand anymore. I also learned that you cannot control others, but yourself, and that’s what I am applying right now. If they can’t learn to appreciate my value, I just simply shrug them off and continue with my everyday routine.
With Coach Beth, I found in her, not just a friend, but a confidante and a mother as well. Why? It is because she goes beyond the usual norm of life coaches/psychologists. Coach Beth serves with a smile and with a heart. I salute Coach Beth for her motherly service.
Leo, Male, 35, Senior Manager
“I have always believed that the first step to improvement is recognizing that you are not perfect. However, we are so used to doing what we are doing that sometimes recognizing our flaws, or that our usual propensities should be considered our flaws, is really difficult. This is where I found Coach Beth’s help very valuable. She helped me realize who I was as a person, i.e., my personality, traits, and natural tendencies. After that, my path to improvement just came naturally with Coach Beth’s guidance. Session after session, I became more and more conscious and mindful of the traits and qualities that I needed to change or improve on. And at the end of it all, I can honestly say that I was not only a more effective leader, but a better person. I had a deeper understanding of who I am and more control over my actions because of the discipline Coach Beth helped me develop.”
Kalikasan, Female, 39 years old, Head of Human Capital
My life was out of balance at that time and I observed changes in my behavior. I was also on denial stage – I can’t believe that it happened in my life in spite of my career and happy single life.
The session with Coach Beth was very helpful, and her advice guided me to move forward, embrace changes, be open to opportunities and find the light that will make me happy. It guided me to find myself again, discovering my self and balance it by engaging openly with friends, family, colleagues, relatives and possible life partner. Discovering my self makes my life vulnerable but it helps me to understand the how to move and try new things.
The value I gained from the session is that we are not alone and its fine to say I’m out of balance today, or I’m not happy today because there are people in this planet that love you and care for you. All you have to do is say it or ask, communicate and be honest to people that love you.
Nina, Housewife/Writer
My name is Nina and I’m a housewife. I had a nervous breakdown in 2012 and would have one every year after that. I was looking for a different kind of therapy when I found Coach Beth online. I found an article which said that Coach Beth conducted a workshop on Sandplay Therapy for the ADHD Society of the Philippines. I didn’t know what Sandplay Therapy was but it sounded interesting. As a writer, I liked how it felt that I was telling stories when I’d choose from Coach Beth’s huge array of toys and figurines and arrange it on a tray of sand. Later on, I found it as a soothing, unobtrusive, and easy way of visualizing what was in my subconscious. Coach Beth got to the heart of the matters that I was going through and I will always be grateful to her for helping me process the issues I had difficulty with working out on my own.
Rodel, Senior Director
I feel very fortunate that Beth helped me in my professional leadership journey. Beth is a great coach. She helped me appreciate the areas of opportunities that have marked impact on my leadership presence in Misys Manila.
She always provided me with great insights, relatable stories and kept me committed by regularly tracking progress. I always walked away from the sessions with a new, clear, perspective on how to approach my work challenges.
Her passion in coaching allowed me to get the most out of our coaching sessions.
I am always grateful on how Beth helped me push my limits and discovered my potential as a leader.